Super Moderator "Loose Nut"
I told myself I wasn't going to post a lot about my Father In Law passing away yesterday at the age of 87 but here I go. He lived a great life, married, three daughters, seven grandchildren and tons of friends. He was a vet, a Mason, Jack of all trades and a friend to all. A few years ago Alzheimer's disease started to set in and has been in a nursing for a while when his physical health followed him mental health issues. As a family we have had the hard discussions on how to handle the final steps of this process some time ago. Being a very proud vet he always wanted to be buried in the VA hospital. The plan had been discussed about a celebration of his life at the VA cemetery, full honors burial with taps. Now comes the dilemma, the VA is not doing any of that because of Covid. They are going to pick up the body and bury him. As of today, they are not going to allow us any access to him, the coffin, burial site or anything else. As a family we are upset. Part of grieving is saying goodbye. Being able to cry one last time. Being able to hold other love ones to ease the grieving process. I spent hours on the phone today attempting to find a way to accomplish some of this. The VA simply stated that during this time they must follow the guidelines they are given. I did find out that the cemetery is not closed to family members from visiting. As of today the VA can not give me an exact burial day. Most of y'all have figured out by now I've got a smart a$$ attitude at times, well it came out today. I told the VA today to expect a family member to be there starting tomorrow so we will know when they bury him. They stated they would stop the burial if anyone was there. I said great, then we could have a small graveside ceremony by ourselves and they could continue the burial after we left. They didn't take very kindly about my idea. So we know have a compromise. The VA will tell us when the casket is at burial site, take a break, them come back. It's an OK compromise, VA folks don't really break any rules and we get to say our goodbye. Hopefully no one else has to go thru this during the current pandemic. If you do, Good luck, as burials, at least in Houston are a lot different. I won't be on the forum as much as usual for the next week or so while I take care of family business. Thanks all. Ride often and safe.